Kamdyn Piland came home from school all teary-eyed and upset. His parents wanted to know what was up, but the 2nd grader did not answer. They kept asking him questions about his day until he showed them a piece of paper that came with a note from his very own teacher. What did it say?
Unhelpful Piece Of Criticism
After reading it, Chris saw that his son’s teacher did not leave a helpful note for Kamdyn. No, she was personally attacking this young boy! There was no way he was just going to let such a thing go.
A Regular Kid
The dad said that his son was a normal child. Kamdyn was not hyperactive nor the sort to indulge in TV shows, video games, and sweet foods. It was a surprise to hear such harsh criticism from his teacher.
After reading the note left on the schoolwork, Chris wondered if there was something else going on at school. This was when he made up his mind to look into it more seriously. What did he find out?
A Regular School
Kamdyn is a 2nd-grade student at Valley View Elementary School. The school was just a regular public elementary school. Chris was aware that his son was not really what you would call an overachiever.
His parents, however, thought that all was going well in his school. They did not spot any problems before this. The complaints about Kamdyn went up ever since the beginning of this school year, however.
Good At School
In many ways, Kamdyn was just a regular boy. Chris always thought his son was a good student. Sure, many kids hate doing homework. However, the problems only cropped up when he entered 2nd grade.
He Couldn’t Just Watch
Chris could not just sit back and look on as Kamdyn began to have a harder time at school. This father knew that it was important for him to try and solve the problem. But what exactly was the issue here?
Struggling In School
Kamdyn was neither unintelligent nor dim. However, Chris saw how much the young boy was struggling. His grades started to slip, but this dad knew that it was out of character for such a thing to happen.
Way Too Harsh
Then came the day Kamdyn got home with the criticism from his teacher, Alyssa Rupp Bohenek. Chris knew she was the issue. After all, she wrote, “Absolutely pathetic! He answered 13 in 3 minutes! Sad!”
Alyssa Bohenek had been a teacher at that school for quite some time. She had earned a reputation as someone hard to please. Kamdyn was her student, and it was easy to see that not all was well.
What Kamdyn did would always catch her eye. She made sure to give him a cruel warning every time that he made an error. The feedback only managed to harm the self-esteem and confidence of the boy.
Addressing Bad Grades
True, no parent wants to hear that their child is performing poorly in school. Regardless, it is often better to sort out the problem as soon as possible. Many people argue about how to deal with poor grades.
There are times when one spends extra time with the kid and guides them through their lessons to great effect. Of course, extra lessons can also be very helpful. ‘Tough love’, however, rarely does the trick.
Constructive Criticism Please
Let us face it, negative feedback will be draining even for older people. While we will all have to accept them, it is best when these criticisms are handed out professionally or constructively.
A Huge Blow
No one likes to get criticized just for the heck of it. When this happens, you can expect the confidence of that individual to go down drastically. We are sure that Kamdyn was very hurt by his teacher’s words.
As A Mentor
It can be challenging to become a mentor. At any rate, it is very important to serve as a good role model if you take on this vocation. A teacher should do more than just deliver lectures to their students.
These folks need to make sure that they will be good leaders and leave positive impacts on their students’ lives. From what we know, Bohenek was certainly not fulfilling that part of the deal.
Not Helpful Whatsoever
Who can blame Chris for his reaction after seeing what the teacher had to tell his own son? It was totally uncalled for. We are sure she could have criticized him without having to resort to a personal attack.
Only Made Things Worse
Chris just wanted Kamdyn to do well at school. He was aware that this kind of criticism would only make things even harder. If you ask us, the way the teacher handled it made the situation that much worse.
A Recurring Problem
Do you think it is possible that this was the only negative comment handed out by Bohenek? Chris would not have made a big fuss if this was the case. However, she had been doing this the entire school year.
Far Too Personal
A lot of the criticism was simply too personal for his liking. Chris would have talked things out with his son if the criticism was balanced and fair. After seeing the comment, he decided to talk to Bohenek.
Took To Facebook
We cannot fathom the idea of a teacher calling her student “pathetic.” This was not a good way to treat kids or anyone else for that matter. No doubt, she should be encouraging the little kids under her care.
Chris wanted to get back at her and drive his point home. This was the reason he resorted to Facebook and posted a condemnation of the teacher. Clearly, no one deserves to be treated this way whatsoever.
His Viral Post
In his post, Chris explained what happened to Kamdyn. He also added the note Bohenek gave his son. The post soon went viral. Clearly, a lot of people had been interested to see what happened after this.
The comments and interactions on the post showed that many people did not approve of her harsh words. What kind of teacher does that anyway? Chris and Kamdyn felt rather vindicated after all of this.
There is more to the duties of a teacher than simply ensuring that students are performing well. They also have to be happy and dedicated to their job. Clearly, it is not easy to work as a mentor to kids.
The Harsh Comments
We are sure that it is hard to help kids go far in life. Chris knew this, but he did not think it justified all the harsh comments she had to say to Kamdyn. After all, the little boy only wanted to learn.
How Learning Should Be
Learning is clearly one of the most important parts of becoming a human being. Without a doubt, we all benefit from learning new skills, abilities, and tasks. You can’t function in life without this essential skill.
No One Likes Negativity
Oh, and let us not forget that the most effective kind of learning happens when one is taught in a creative and inspiring way. After all, many only get discouraged when they are dealt with negativity.
Launching A Petition
After posting it on Facebook, Chris planned to simply let it be. However, the internet was not going to forget about it. Soon enough, someone created an online petition that asked for the firing of Bohenek.
Rallying Behind Him
Chris was shocked to see all of the strangers who supported both him and his son. Not once did he assume that it would get so much publicity! He was touched to see many people standing up for them.
Endangering Her Career
The petition soon turned into something more serious. If Bohenek failed to protect herself from the backlash, she might be out of a job soon. At this point, Chris felt so mad that he wanted to get her fired.
The Line Has Been Drawn
If you ask us, that might the best thing for Kamdyn as well as the other children enrolled in the primary school. There are certain times when you have to draw a line. This moment certainly qualified for that.
Teaching How To Learn
As a teacher, you do not only impart course material to your students. While an underrated duty, it is also very important for a teacher to instill the joy of learning in all the students under their wing.
If you can do such a thing, then the other aspects will come very easily. When learners know the process, they will then process it all better and more quickly. Negativity should not have a place there.
When the petition was launched on behalf of the young boy, 10,000 people signed it. However, some teachers stood up for Bohenek. They said that people went too far by trying to get her fired.
Let us find out what Bohenek made little Kamdyn feel. “She made me really sad and upset. I was really mad. And [it was] really mean to do,” the 7-year-old boy explained. Isn’t that disheartening to hear?
“You don’t write that on anybody’s paper, let alone a little 7-year-old, second grader’s paper. It said on the top of it that he answered only 13 of them in 3 minutes and that it was absolutely pathetic with a sad face,” Chris said when he talked to media outlets. Kamdyn also added, “It broke my heart.”
Chris had more things to say about this matter. He was totally furious about what his son had to go through. He also explained, “I believe what you wrote on his paper was extremely unprofessional and just very rude and she messaged me back and said she was sorry I felt that way.”
Punished Not Fired
Nearly everyone agreed that such a thing could cause damage and trauma to such a young boy. Still, some felt like she only deserved to get a reprimand. They believed that getting her fired was too much.
It is the parents, teachers, and role models who shape kids into good adults. “Thanks to all the efforts and support of the dedicated people who signed and shared this petition, I’m happy to announce that the teacher in question is currently being investigated by the Valley View school board,” Chris said when the school agreed to look deeper into this matter.
It turns out that Rose Minniti, the school superintendent, was made aware of what this teacher wrote on the paper. An investigation began after Bohenek was called in for a meeting with the school district.
Minniti said, “As always with everything, we’re going to try to do what’s best for the students and what we need to do for the employee under investigation.” She added, “It’s a personnel issue and the results of that are not going to be dictated by social media. It’s going to be dictated by the facts and evidence.”
We just hope that this will have good results in the future. At any rate, folks from different parts of the globe still want Bohenek to get fired. The petition already has 20,000 signatures!
Some Blamed Him
Some of the people who sided with Bohenek has since turned the problem around. They claim that Chris has poor parenting skills. They said that maybe he should get off social media and be there for his kids.
Helping With Homework
According to them, such a thing would not have happened if he only helped Kamdyn with homework. Still, they are part of the minority. Most people would say that Bohenek was in the wrong here.
Training The Teachers
Education is something that will forever be up for debate. The truth is that teachers should, every now and then, be monitored to ensure that they are doing their jobs as they are shaping the minds of kids!
We should ensure that they can perform their duties and impart good lessons to their students. While the marks of the students can serve as an indicator of this, their teaching style matters just as much.
Teaching The Teachers
There was one issue that became clear in the debates that went down in the comments. Many believed that teachers should be guided too. Someone qualified for the job might not be entirely ready for it.
They Need Mentoring
There are lots of cases in which teachers also need mentoring of their own. Every single student is different and has specific issues to address. A teacher must adapt to guide them through it all.
Becoming A Mother
Those who kept up with this story also found out that Bohenek was pregnant. She was on her way to becoming a mom soon. Some assumed that she acted more temperamentally thanks to her hormones.
Finding Some Inspiration
This story did bring one more question into the light. How would Bohenek have reacted if she found herself in Chris’s shoes? Would she have done the same thing? We hope she can inspire students instead.
A Creative Approach
Teachers need to be inspired to do their jobs well. When they are dispirited and dealing with issues, it is possible that they might take it to the classroom as well. An inspired person will do better at teaching.
A Great Teacher
This is the reason a teacher should make sure they are always inspired. Some teachers resort to creative methods to help out their struggling students. If you have a teacher like this, you probably feel lucky.
Children Are The Future
Maybe this is the real issue behind this story. Teachers should be in the right state of mind both in and out of the classroom since they have a big impact on the development of their young students.
We hope that you were lucky enough to have been taught by an inspiring teacher. You must know that small acts of kindness can go a long way. Just looking forward to going to school and teaching will help.
There are times when just paying attention to the learners can boost their confidence. We think that Bohenek should have done this instead of resort to harsh criticism. Kids need great role models, after all.
When all is said and done, this must have imparted an important lesson to all teachers and parents. While teachers should behave in a particular way, they are still only humans at the end of the day.
Of course, everyone makes mistakes, and no one is immune to this. However, as parents, it’s important to take an interest in your children’s education. Make sure to help them study when they need it.
Online, the reactions were generally negative. As expected, folks had a lot of things to say about it. “A teacher bullied […] a second-grader,” Peckville resident Beth O’Brien said, “I think they should be fired.”
Chris said that he just wanted to look out for his son, not get her fired for kicks. “It’s something that shouldn’t happen and shouldn’t be tolerated at all,” he said. He also moved Kamdyn to another class.
He has spoken openly about the issue to raise awareness. He had one more reason for doing so: “Maybe it’ll be taken seriously now and it’ll keep it from happening to other teachers and other students.”
The comments from netizens varied, but many were in agreement. Yvonne was just as mad as Chris when she found out how the teacher handled it. She must think Bohenek should not teach any longer!
There will be people who act mean for no good reason. Social media is full of such people. This guy decided to comment on the boy’s math skills instead. Clearly, he did not get the point of the outrage.
Rose, a different commenter, agreed with Chris. In general, most folks did. If you ask us, the 7-year-old boy did well by answering 13 math questions in 3 minutes. Surely, he did not deserve the comment.
Some people made sure to let their feelings about Bohenek be known. Erona did not think she should be allowed to teach further. She said that a teacher should not do something like that to any student.
Margaret also had a great point. She said that Chris said the teacher had been acting rude the entire year, and she wondered why. Perhaps it was a personal issue for Bohenek if this was the case.
Meanwhile, Brittney felt for Kamdyn. She feels that the teacher should be sacked as many others did. Still, it was sad that Bohenek decided to make her student feel bad instead of encouraging the poor boy.
We all know how messy things can get on social media. It is free for all, so people do not hold back on their comments. An issue took place when Erin said something that made her fellow netizens react.
Sandra has decided to give Chris a piece of advice. She told the dad to move his son to another class taught by a different teacher. No one wanted Kamdyn to get traumatized any further, after all.
David had very direct advice for Chris: toughen up your kid, the world isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. He thinks if Chris would help Kamdyn with his math, things like this wouldn’t happen in the first place. Accusing people just isn’t the best way to do things in general.
Lori decided to talk about something specific. She tackled the way Bohenek used ‘pathetic.’ Folks were offended by the harsh word. Calling an adult that is already mean, so what more when used on a kid?
An entire battle ensued, but we have yet to see the results. The school district website says that Bohenek is still under their employ. If this is the case, we hope she at least learned her lesson.
One woman had this to say about the situation: “Such a tender age to be scarred from this form of abuse. There are a lot of so-called ‘teachers’ that are working in schools that don’t care for children and aren’t fit to teach… Little to no training or love for the profession. I’m a former teacher and has taught for 20 years, I can truly see why many students and families are turning to homeschool and other non-traditional learning opportunities”.
This person was horrified by what the teacher did: “I’m disgusted by this teacher’s actions and she should be fired if she doesn’t know how to censor her thoughts as well as promote the kids learning with positive feedback.”
Not The Only One
It turns out that this problem isn’t as uncommon as we’d like to think it is. Kamdyn isn’t the only child who’s had trouble with school due to an unpleasant teacher. Karen Eubank’s son had a similar tale. The 4th grader had a lot to say.
At first, the 9-year-old complained to his mother about his “mean” teacher. However, Karen took it with a grain of salt. Seeing as her son had just moved schools, it was very possible he simply was taking time to adjust to the change.
Another reason Karen wasn’t sure how serious her son was since kids typically say people are ‘mean’ even when they aren’t. For instance, when a teacher makes the kids study or is demanding, kids can sometimes perceive it as mean even though it isn’t.
Not What She Thought
However, it turned out that Karen was far-off the mark. She didn’t think her son had a serious issue. She didn’t think his teacher was being verbally abusive. Well, that was exactly the case, apparently.
When Karen saw the school for the first time before transferring her son, she loved it. But, once he started attending, he began saying he didn’t want to go to school. Each day he would claim that he felt nauseated. When she would pick him up in the afternoons, he would be angry.
The entire time this was going on, Karen simply thought her son was having a hard time with the adjustment, and that he would eventually settle in. However, it wasn’t until Halloween of that year that she discovered the truth.
When Karen asked a child who was in the class next door to her son how’s school, this was his answer: he said he was fine, but that her son “wasn’t having such a good time.” The boy told her the teacher, “yells at him all the time and we can hear it in the next room.”
Karen immediately set up meetings with the teacher and the principal. The teacher insisted the problem was her son’s inattentiveness. The principal refused to do anything. Karen was becoming more and more frustrated. She said both the teacher and principal said they were worried about her son.
Since the teacher and principal claimed Karen’s son couldn’t focus in class, she took him for a psychological evaluation to settle the matter once and for all. She found out there was absolutely nothing wrong with him.
Resolving The Problem
When Karen spoke to other parents of kids in her son’s class, they mentioned how they would never see the teacher smile. Meanwhile, her son shared more about his teacher. “‘She picks on me and is mean,’ he told me,” Karen said. “‘I pay attention,’ he insisted, ‘but I look out the window because I’d rather look at trees and listen than look at her angry face.’” Within a few days, Karen took her son out of school and homeschooled him instead.